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Pre-Marriage Guidance as an Effort to Form Harmonious Families in the Office of Religious Affairs (KUA) Perspective of Islamic Satisfaction

Saliyo Saliyo, Sanusi Sanusi, Risqi Nidiya Putri

Abstract

This study aims to determine Pre-Marriage Guidance as an Effort to Form Harmonious Families in the Office of Religious Affairs (KUA) Perspective of Islamic Satisfaction and some of its problems. This research was conducted at the Office of Religious Affairs (KUA) of Bae Kudus District. This article is the result of field research with a qualitative approach. Data collection uses interview, observation and documentation and triangulation methods. The number of informants is 12 people using non-possible sampling and the determination of informants by purposive sampling. The results showed that: a) The role of religious counselors as guides in providing pre-marital guidance can form harmonious families with the satisfaction of Islamic marriage. With the couple's notes running the material delivered in pre-marital guidance; b) Pre-marital guidance in KUA of Bae District is carried out after an examination of administrative data of the bride and groom is carried out within 30-60 minutes. Material delivered about the ins and outs of married life to be fostered in the future. Among them are the rights and obligations as husband and wife and so forth. The methods used in pre-marital guidance are lectures, questions and answers and discussions in the form of seminars; c) Problems in pre-marital guidance activities include lack of time, lack of concern for the catin (bride-to-be), the distance where Catin lives and funding from the government. Things that support are a comfortable environment, knowledge of qualified religious instructors, pre-supporting facilities and good KUA citizen participation.

Keywords

Pre-Marriage Guidance, Harmonious Family, Islamic Satisfaction

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DOI: 10.21043/kr.v11i2.8730