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Islamic Counseling to Improve Quality of Parenting Pattern

Ahmad Saifuddin

Abstract

So many problems that occur in children and adolescents, one of which is the increased juvenile delinquency. One of the factors of the problem is the low quality of care or parenting. This article aims to discuss the role of Islamic counseling in improving the quality of care pattern, using qualitative approach then analyze it with literature study method. As a result, parents still have poor parenting skills. In addition, religious knowledge also plays an important role in the practice of parenting. Therefore, Islamic counseling becomes a solution to overcome the problem of parenting. On the one side, Islamic counseling has a role to improve parenting skills. On the other side, Islamic counseling plays a role in improving the ability of parents to internalize religious values in themselves and children. This roles can do with explain religion and parenting concept use counseling and psychology paradigm. There is integration between them.

Keywords

counselor, Islamic counseling, parenting

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DOI: 10.21043/kr.v10i1.3852